The last quarter of 2012 was a whirlwind for us. At the beginning of October, after several false starts, we were finally matched with a birth mom. She lives in Ohio and was due to have a baby boy at the end of November. We started the adoption process at the beginning of the year, so we were so excited at the prospect of our new baby arriving soon!
On Halloween morning, our birth mom called me to say she had gone into labor. What?? That’s too early??? By early afternoon, our adoption agency was urging us to get to Ohio as quickly as possible because our birth mom had been admitted and was going to deliver. As in get on the next flight to Ohio. But…..it’s Halloween afternoon, we have two Halloween parties to go to, our nearly-3 year old is super-excited to be going to these parties and to wear her costume, and we live an hour and a half from the nearest airport!! Not to mention we live in California, and at such short notice there were no direct flights available to Ohio, so even if I was able to fly out that evening, I wouldn’t get to Ohio until the afternoon of the next day due to layovers and time difference.
So….we made the decision that I would get on a flight early the next morning, which would have me in Cleveland by late evening, and I would still be able to go straight to the hospital. We compromised and went to only one of the Halloween parties so that our daughter could still enjoy the fun, but it would give me the time I needed to pack my bags.
My flight landed in Cleveland around 10.30 pm. I picked up a rental car, drove to my hotel to check in, then drove to the hospital where I arrived at something like 12.30 am. There, I met our birth mom and our new baby boy for the very first time. Despite being early, he was healthy, a decent weight (6lb 3oz), and perfect in every way 🙂 We named him Jacob.
I won’t go into all of the details, but our birth mom is a truly amazing and special person. It took such great strength and selflessness on her part to say goodbye to Jacob and hand him over to me when she was discharged from the hospital. She later said it was the hardest thing she’s ever had to do. She didn’t have to do it, she could have still changed her mind at that point. Adoption is an uncertain business for all involved. The adoptive parents have to go on faith that the birth mom will go through with the placement. The birth mom has to go on faith that she has made the best decision for her baby and chosen the right family for him.
Thankfully, our birth mom was firm in her belief that this was the right thing for her and her baby. I think it also helped that we want to have an open adoption, meaning that we stay in contact with our birth mom via phone/text/email, and if she wants to send him cards and/or gifts on his birthday and at Christmas, then we welcome that.
Jacob is now two months old and doing really well. He is strong and healthy, eats well and sleeps well. He has a sweet, mellow temperament, a real easy-going little fellow (so far!)
Jacob’s big sister, Larissa, turned 3 on Jan 3rd. Larissa is also adopted, that is simply how we were meant to build our family. Larissa is the most caring and loving big sister, we hardly had to deal with any jealousy. She simply loves having Jacob around!
Our family is now complete, and we are so happy and relived. The uncertainty is over, we have two amazing kids, and now we can get on with being a family!